Just saying

Many people stay in abusive relationships in hopes that someday their partner will change. Unfortunately, some of these people continually get battered on a daily basis by their partners even for several years. Others, stay in the relationship for the rest of their lives. Sadly, others lose their lives their violent significant other. The question is if you found yourself in such a relationship, would stay or walk away? My candid advice is to walk away. Your partner can never change. Once they have become violent, they can only get worse. As much as you may love them and cannot imagine a life without them, you should also consider yourself. Such a relationship can only bring grief, emotional turmoil, fear, restlessness and worse still, low self-esteem. An abusive partner will cause you sleepless nights because you are afraid of what they are going to do next, where and how. They earlier you get out of such a relationship, the better. Sticking around will certainly...

It’s been good, it’s been great but it’s over. You may have parted in good terms or your partner may have disappeared into the thin air. That doesn't really matter now because it’s over. Sad as it may be, you may be feeling used or perhaps on the flip side, relieved. No matter your circumstances, it is time to accept that your relationship is over. It is time to move on with life. Better things are coming your way. Believe in yourself. You can stand alone. It is true when your partner is gone you feel a void in your life. The trick is to fill those voids with other things in life. If you were used to spending time together, chatting, hanging out at certain places you are likely to miss them and even feel lonely. But that does not mean that you should feel sorry for yourself. You should instead look for activities that occupy most of your time and keep you busy. You may choose to stop some of the activities you did with your partner. But then again, if some of those activi...

Everyone deserves to be in a healthy relationship where they are happy and feel fulfilled. It is rather unfortunate that most couples stick together in unhealthy relationships that is not good for them. Interestingly, you may be in a relationship that is not good for you and you do not know it. People outside the relationship will easily identify a bad or unhealthy relationship than the couple in one. The following are the typical signs that you can use to gauge whether your relationship is good for you or not. *Lack of communication When you find yourself in a situation whereby you do not feel that you can talk to your partner, or understand him or her when they talk to you, then you are going to have many unresolved issues. The bond you share as a couple is likely to be broken. This is a common problem faced by many couples and can easily be resolved if both partners are willing to work at it. Otherwise, if you or your partner is not willing to put in some effort, then you...

Have a tight budget does not mean you cannot have fun on a date. Creativity is what matters. In the same way, having plenty of money does not guarantee a fun date. Enjoying the person you are spending your time with is more important in having a fun date. What you need to do is ensure your date has a lovely experience! However, you need to choose an activity that is safe for both of you. There are activities that cost nothing at all, such as, going for a walk, bike riding, hiking, or sitting at the park and telling each other stories. The advantage of this is that you get to talk more with your date and the potential of learning new things about them is very high. If there is little money to spend, go for an ice cream, cupcakes, coffee or tea. Choose a place that is not noisy yet comfortable in order to enjoy it more. Alternatively, ask your date to come over to your place and make cupcakes together. You might learn new tricks in baking in addition to having plenty of f...

Telling your wife she is too skinny is quite a task. Since people react differently to different situations, you should be able to know how she would react if she knew you think she is thin. A general guide however, regardless of whom you are addressing, is minding your words. You should be sensitive to her feelings as you deliver the message. Before telling her how you feel, you should make sure she knows that you love her. This is very important. If she does not feel loved she might take it to be one of your ways of letting her know you do not desire her. When she is assured of your love for her, she will keep her self-esteem intact even after knowing how you feel. Remember, she might not be of the opinion she’s is too skinny. Be cautious though; do not compare her to some other lady. This will make her jealous or worse still, suspicious. You do not want her to think you are eyeing another woman or that you prefer someone else other than her. Women have a way of twisting...

Many young people find themselves in relationships with married people. The question is, do they know the dangers of such a union? Falling in love with a married person is nothing but trouble. There is nothing good that can come out of it. It is only one problem after another. Falling in love with a married person puts you in the danger of having your emotions toiled with. Why would anyone settle for empty promises? Unfortunately, there are several men and women who go after the married person disregarding all vices associated with it. Falling in love is a process. One does not wake up one day and find they are in love. It is therefore not an accident. It is a choice. When someone makes this choice, they are agreeing to being degraded and regarded as the last option. A relationship with someone who is married does not have value. In other people’s eye, you are either a husband snatcher or a wife thief. Even if you eventually get together in the long run, the mutual respect i...