How to accept that your relationship is over

It’s been good, it’s been great but it’s over. You may have parted in good terms or your partner may have disappeared into the thin air. That doesn't really matter now because it’s over. Sad as it may be, you may be feeling used or perhaps on the flip side, relieved. No matter your circumstances, it is time to accept that your relationship is over. It is time to move on with life. Better things are coming your way. Believe in yourself. You can stand alone.

It is true when your partner is gone you feel a void in your life. The trick is to fill those voids with other things in life. If you were used to spending time together, chatting, hanging out at certain places you are likely to miss them and even feel lonely. But that does not mean that you should feel sorry for yourself. You should instead look for activities that occupy most of your time and keep you busy. You may choose to stop some of the activities you did with your partner. But then again, if some of those activities mean a lot to you, for example, exercising, cooking, camping, hiking, etc., you do not have to stop them. You can continue with those activities even without your former partner or spouse.

Your fingers may itch once in a while to call them. You have to resist the temptation every time. It is okay, it is only natural that you feel that way. It is like when you know something is bad for you and you still go for it. It does not make sense but that is human nature. More so if you left your partner because they are violent, you should never ever think of going back. It may not be easy to let go, but when it is over, accept, thank God and move on. It is even harder to let go when your partner was kind, tender, loving, caring and a real inspiration. There is a reason the relationship is over. It is better to accept that other than to live a lie.

Breakups can be painful just as Dr. Phil explains. “Grief is a process to go through, not a destination in which to wallow. In a process, you keep putting one foot in front of the other, and each little step is part of your healing.” So you may not get over it overnight, but with effort everyday, you shall overcome the heartbreak. Think more of yourself and how you can build a relationship with yourself. Love yourself and do that which makes you happy.

Do you believe in out of sight out of mind? Well, you should stop seeing your ex; it will make it easier to accept that they are no longer your love. If you keep seeing them, you are less likely to move past the break up in good time. Instead, your heartache will take longer to heal. Do not even think of being friends. You may awaken emotions which are best buried. On the bright side, you can love again fully and completely. You can live your life to the fullest. Don’t ever forget, loving does not keep you immune from being hurt. But do not stop loving. Start with yourself.