Walk away from an abusive relationship

Many people stay in abusive relationships in hopes that someday their partner will change. Unfortunately, some of these people continually get battered on a daily basis by their partners even for several years. Others, stay in the relationship for the rest of their lives. Sadly, others lose their lives their violent significant other. The question is if you found yourself in such a relationship, would stay or walk away?

My candid advice is to walk away. Your partner can never change. Once they have become violent, they can only get worse. As much as you may love them and cannot imagine a life without them, you should also consider yourself. Such a relationship can only bring grief, emotional turmoil, fear, restlessness and worse still, low self-esteem.

An abusive partner will cause you sleepless nights because you are afraid of what they are going to do next, where and how. They earlier you get out of such a relationship, the better. Sticking around will certainly not make things any better. Interestingly, your partner may promise to change but unfortunately, most of the abusive people do not change. They just get new ways of being violent.

It is better to learn from other people’s mistakes than to make your own and pay so dearly. The first sign of an abuse is a slap or a kick. When you witness this, do not hesitate, do give an excuse for that action, take off. The longer you stay, the worse it will become. Do not mind what the society will say; you are better safe than sorry. Let people talk about your broken union, let your friends and family condemn you for not giving your children a complete family, for they can only talk for so long. When you walk away, you shall have the rest of your life in peace, tranquillity and good health.

If you are afraid to leave because of the threats that he has made to you, then you should seek for assistance from government agencies that deal with spousal abuse in your region.  They should be able to give you protection and advice on how best to handle the situation. If you have any children, you should first seek their safety, an abusive partner will most likely extend their abuse to the children.

To get the best action plan, consider all your options. Judge the situation then consider the good and bad that happens between you and your partner. What do you stand to lose or gain when you decide to leave or stay?  If you decide to stay, what are the chances that your partner will ever return to you mentally or emotionally? The ultimate decision is yours.